We all have a message to share with the world. It's our purpose on this earth. Our purpose is to live what we believe and that will be different for each one of us. But so often we play it down and hide, we duck away because we fear what other people will think. Words by Jo Hodson
Where Are You Hiding in Your Life?
Is it in terms of the clothes you wear? Is it in terms of what you eat? To keep yourself just below optimum, a little bit more body fat than maybe you'd like so that you can duck beneath the parapet and not stand out and draw attention (I know that feeling all too well).
Is it that you have a lot to say, you have viewpoints but you don't share them with the world, you keep them locked away in your mind. Is it that you journal in private and never share your thoughts with another soul, and maybe you shouldn't. But maybe you could.
This manifested in my own life a few years back when I was at my fittest and leanest. When I went to the gym people began asking questions and looked up to me as a role model, when I became consciously aware that was what was happening I freaked out. I lost the edge of my fitness and leaness and I ducked below the parapet, staying at the top end of average, out of 'view' in my comfortable safety zone.
Around that time my wardrobe also began to subtly shift. Out with the bright colours and in with the blacks and greys.
I hadn't noticed what was happening at the time, it was only sometime later I realised the significant impact it had had, and why.
It was a subconscious action to opt out of the overwhelm I had created. To shy away from the expectation and pressure I had placed upon myself and the stories I had created around people’s perceptions - and I used that to keep myself small. Now I see that it is all just story we tell ourselves.
Hiding is the opposite of visibility, yet for so long I'd manage to fool myself that I was playing full out and that I was visible, but was I really?
Yes I was in the ways that I was comfortable with, but not in the ways that triggered fear. The ways that had most meaning for me, deep down in my soul.
I’m curious… how do you want to show up differently in your life?
We all have a message to share with the world. It's our purpose on this earth. Our purpose is to live what we believe and that will be different for each one of us. But so often we play it down and hide in plain sight. We duck away because we fear what other people will think.
That's not good enough any more.
No,, other people might not agree, but that's the beauty of it. Not everyone will but those that do resonate with your message- you'll reach them. Your ideal clients, your friends, your peers... the people that you are here to connect with, to help, to serve. By showing up in your power, by being visible, you invite other people to do the same.
One of the things my coaching mentors often tell me is that by not putting myself out in this world in my most powerful, visible way, I am denying my potential clients from working with me because they cannot see me, they cannot find me.
That's a really powerful re-frame- who are you denying from experiencing your gifts?
Who are you denying?
This is about you. You as a person, a human, a spiritual being. Who are you denying receiving your unique gifts? Because we are all unique, we all have gifts, we all have a voice and a message to be shared. We need to dig deeper, to face our fears and create that visibility, we need to show up and shine our light
Who is being denied that experience of you?
How are you hiding? Why are you hiding? … and what small steps can you take today to step out from your shadow?
Jo has recently launched a unique new ‘Visibility’ package to help small business owners in the wellness field to become more visible, be able to more powerfully share their unique voice and mission with the world and create wider exposure and better reach their ideal clients. If this sounds like you- find more details and get in touch here: www.designfromtheheart.co.uk/the-visibility-package